Don't do that, do this

Being observed as a coach can be nerve-wracking, especially when new to the role.

Even seasoned coaches can find it intrusive, and wonder if they should’ve figured everything out by now.

Feeling uneasy about being watched is natural, but good coaches know that observation is a powerful tool for growth.

To keep improving and enjoying your coaching journey, it’s essential to remain open to different perspectives, even during your routine coaching sessions. However, it doesn’t make it any easier when another coach questions your approach.

Through my years of coaching, I’ve seen many ways to coach – some better than others.

I’ve also come to accept that it doesn’t make it ineffective, just because I wouldn’t use a specific technique myself. Different approaches can still drive progress for players and teams.

With that said, when I feel the need to offer feedback to a fellow coach, it’s essential to approach it in a helpful and respectful way.

Focus on specific actions, rather than criticising the coach personally. For instance, you could say: "During the defensive drill, the players seemed unsure about their roles. Maybe a quick demonstration beforehand would clarify things.” This makes the feedback constructive and practical.

Highlighting something positive first is also a great strategy. An example of this is: "I really liked how you kept the energy high during the drills, but I noticed the players lost momentum between exercises."

Empathy is key. Acknowledge their challenges, such as large group sizes or time constraints, and offer practical suggestions: "I know managing a large group is tough. Maybe splitting them into smaller units could give everyone more hands-on time."

Always encourage reflection, by asking questions like: "How do you think the players responded to that drill?".

Finally, offer support. Let them know you’re available to help brainstorm ideas or provide further guidance.

By framing feedback positively and collaboratively, we can help each other grow as coaches and, ultimately, benefit the players.